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6 Things I Wish I Knew in My 20s

Written by: Susan Hang

I can’t believe I’m saying this, but I’m officially 30 as of yesterday…

I started writing for Zanita when I was 27 and can hardly believe I’m here today still writing this type of content. It seems that some of my most popular posts come from my personal life lessons, so here I am starting a whole new chapter of my life. And I’ll be sharing all the things I wish I knew in my 20s. Cliché but true… My 20s were such a confusing, conflicting time – and I can’t express the wonderful feeling of taking true ownership of my life as I close that decade.

Here are the 6 main things I wish I knew in my 20s…

#1 Sometimes, it’s not worth fighting for; sometimes, it’s not worth fighting about…

How far you get in life is invariably dependent on who you choose to be with. Sure, this applies to your friends, but it becomes even more significant when it comes to your life partner. If you’re pulling more than your weight to make something work, it’s probably not worth fighting for. And often times, I think many of us already know; we’re just scared to make that big move. But, trust your gut…it knows more than you do. That being said, not everything is worth fighting about, so learn to pick your battles carefully. If holding your ground means acting out in a way that damages a relationship, it probably isn’t worth fighting about..

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#2 It’ll be ok…

I spent so much of my 20s worrying – worrying about my goals, worrying about where I’m at in certain stages of my life, and worrying about the future. What a waste. I wish I took more time to just enjoy life as it was. When time is gone, it’s lost forever and you never get it back. Looking back, that decade of my life would have probably been so much easier if I had someone there to tell me that everything will be ok and life will work out exactly as it’s supposed to. If it’s been a while since you’ve heard those words, I’m happy to tell you, it’ll be ok. If you’re working hard, helping others along the way, and doing the things that you want to, you will be fine. Stop worrying.

#3 Learn to refocus your energy…

Difficult times have a way of feeling pervasive – and you will endure much of it throughout your 20s. However, don’t let the negativity drag you down so far that you lose yourself to drugs, the wrong people, or whatever bad company exists. I’ve learned that the best way to combat hard times is to redirect your energy into actions that can point you towards your goals. If you’re struggling in the job market, tweak your resume, send it out, and keep on tweaking and sending. If you just went through a nightmare break up, surround yourself with people who can support you! The pain eventually passes. You just have to learn how to pivot.

#4 You can never be so sure…

Life can be so deceitful, but you eventually realize that you can never be so sure about anything or anyone. There is no such thing as security or forever. What I mean is that everything in this world is temporary, so never get too obsessed or overly attached to your job, your finances, and people. That’s not to say you should live life with a fortress built so high and thick around you that you never get to experience the beauty of all those great things. It’s that you should be well-equipped for those uncontrived battles that infiltrate at a moment’s notice.

#5 Not everyone is as happy as they seem…

Everyone’s life looks so amazing and so magical. Everyone but me… I think we’ve all been there. Just remember that everyone has their own problems. Everyone is a little cray. And nothing is ever as perfect as it seems. I know it can be hard to believe in a world of perfectly curated Instagram lives, but you know that saying, “if it seems too good to be true, it probably is”… Yeah, marinate on that. Learn to be happy with what you have and you will receive more.

#6 Learn your strengths and capitalize on them…

Don’t waste your youth partying and drinking. In fact, take the little time you have in your 20s to build hobbies, refine skills, and figure out what you’re good at. You never know what those strengths might become. The earlier you navigate your strengths and cultivate them, the further you’ll ascend in life. And don’t stop until you find it. Everyone is good at something – it just takes more time for some of us.

 

xo,
Susan
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