I’m typically a fan of “lessons” posts at the end of the year, but I’ve encountered enough sticky situations that I’m starting early…
Most of this may seem intuitive, but life is funny in what it throws at you and how it takes you for abrupt twists and turns – so much and so unexpectedly that what sounds intuitive doesn’t always feel so intuitive. If there’s any year I can deem a drastic time of change, 2017 is without a doubt the year. Change is imminent and ever-occurring – most of us can live with that, but when change is metamorphic, it can feel scary and lonely all at the same time. That’s where we start to have problems.
Here are the few life lessons helping me outlast the wear and tear…
A lot can happen in 3-6 months
Just 6 months ago, I would have never imagined being in the situation I’m in today. How many of you can say the same? I know I’m being super vague here, but even though 3-6 months feel like a small chunk of time in the grand scheme of things, a lot can happen in that little window. Never think that you’re in a situation that can’t change – no matter how good or bad it is. Whatever you’re going through will change so go through it and let it go.
Someone who claims to be a good friend won’t always be YOUR friend
Friends can be the best and worst things that will ever happen to you. A true test of friendship comes when life heads south. Fortunately, you don’t need a lot of friends or people in your life – only a few amazing people who are willing to go as far for you as you would for them. Find and pick those people carefully. Trust people until they give you good reasons not to – especially amid separation or a break up. It’s often difficult for mutual friends to “pick a side”, but watch those words and actions carefully. It becomes obvious when “neutrality” is really a covert bias. Having said that, recognize the toxic actions that warrant unwinding years of friendship and give people time to show themselves.
Even the best fall
Bad things to happen to good people. No matter how great someone may be in something and no matter how perfect their life looks, there will always be setbacks for everyone. We’re all human. If it can happen to them, it can happen to you. Never be so sure.
Do what you don’t wanna do
The best way to stop thinking about all the things you don’t want to do, is to do it and get it over with. Nothing gets better or easier over time – especially when you already don’t want to do it.
It’s ok to feel alone
Walking a path that aligns with your conviction, but against everyone else’s is hard. It often leaves you lonely – awake and feeling broke inside when everyone’s asleep. But remember, the most negative feedback comes from the people who care most. Embrace it even when it’s hard. And always remember your purpose – knowing that purpose and being reminded of it works wonders because it’s better to follow your heart than the crowd.