When you work in an office environment that is geared towards millennial girls (or just women in general), you’ll likely hear all kinds of relationship narratives, both comical and tragedious, either that or the difficulties that come with scouting quality guys these days. I don’t know and can’t possibly understand the struggle of meeting men today, but what I do know is the necessity of being alone to fully understand your needs, your desires, and ultimately, yourself.
And trust me, finding yourself is a constant process especially in your 20s so save yourself the heartache now.
If you’re in a situation where you’re starting to feel lonely or wondering why you can’t seem to meet anyone worthy, remember the perks of being single – it isn’t so bad after all.
– More YOU.
Relationships consume a lot of energy.
Time to yourself in your 20s is golden so utilize your freedom to the fullest. This is your time to experiment. You can date different types of men (even try the ones you thought you’d never consider), fail a lot, and visit tons of new places. You can pretty much do anything you want without being tied down or feeling guilty about taking something on alone. The best thing is you don’t need to explain yourself to anyone; this is your time to be selfish.
– More Time.
Relationships consume a lot of time.
You’d be surprised at how much more time you have when you’re not in a relationship – this is something single people take for granted and people in relationships don’t have the luxury of realizing until they’re single. A couple hours of hanging out could have been spent organizing your laundry or washing your car. We don’t realize it but as soon as we’re in a relationship, we tend to put someone else’s needs in front of our own, which takes away our personal time from being productive. On a Saturday morning, all you’ll want to do is cuddle in bed (especially when it’s cold) when you should be getting off your bum to go for a run in the park.
– More People.
Relationships limit your pool.
There are so many millions of people in the universe even though you might feel like you can hardly meet anyone. That probably just means you should broaden your network a bit more, but seriously, you’d be surprised. Have you ever naturally connected with another person in a way that sparked an interest, a little curiosity, but he was single and you were in a relationship so it couldn’t take off further? That’s my point…meet people, date some more, and make mistakes. That’s how you find the one.
– More Money.
Relationships consume your funds.
Gifts of all variations, dinner for two, drinks for two – everything for two – it all starts to cost a lot of money. Being single allows you to splurge, but at the same time save. All for yourself the way it should be when you’re young and free.
– Less Stress.
Relationships cause major headaches.
You should know that when you’re in a relationship, you’re bound to fight. It can last a couple minutes up to days and weeks depending on the severity and length of your relationship. And if you’re not fighting, he will eventually say something so obliviously outrageous that pisses you off and at the end of the day, he won’t be apologetic about it. Just thinking about it gives me a headache so know that you’re saving yourself a lot of pain right now. Be happy you don’t have to deal with it.
Anyway, the point is that you’re young so be free, live abundantly and adventurously.
Image Source Credits – Levis